Performance, Traditions and the Afterlife

"Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted."- St. Matthew 5:4. A funeral is a structured ceremony, with a beginning, middle and an end. Many of those who attend funerals are not mourning. A significant number of the so called mourners are there for the food. Of course they will give the customary greeting ‘I am sorry for your loss’. The reality is they are being polite. Very few are truly sorry and will grieve with you. In fact, even some family members put on a performance worthy of an Academy Award. However, such is life. We each grieve in separate ways. There are no manuals which say there is one size fit all regarding grief. Some will bawl while others mourn silently. Oftentimes, we use our biases and prejudices regarding how one should mourn to cast judgment. Each time we attend a funeral we become or should become more conscious of our own mortality. Performance . We are always performing. One just has to examine our use and misuse of social media; ev...