Processing Your Mental Health Is Critical

“Mental health is not a destination it is a process.”- Dr. Noam Shpancer, Ph.D. The issue of mental health is one of those topics which is always relevant regardless of the time of the year. For some, Christmas is that time of year where happiness is aplenty and nothing else matters. On the other hand, there are those who are depressed around this time of year. Many of us have experienced mood swings. Unfortunately, mental health care is expensive and without insurance many are placed in a dangerous situation regarding making that choice between putting food on the table or seeing a mental health care provider. In fact, for most folks the choice is automatic, food is a primary need. Sadly, when we sacrifice our mental health we live to regret that decision. It makes no sense to judge or second guess someone who has taken his or her life. In that moment of insanity, we do not know nor should we want to know what life is like. In my own family one of my dearest cousins died by suicide many years ago. I still have fond memories of my cousin Valrie. My first visit overseas as a teenager was to Canada where I spent a few days with my cousin and her family. I recall her generosity. I was devastated by the news of her death. I still remember where I was when I received the sad news. My dad at that time had a red Ford wrecker. I was sitting on the back of the wrecker; my dad had just reached home from a hard day’s work. Mental health is not a destination in that once we arrive at that safe place our mental state remains safe forever. Mental health wellness requires vigilance in safeguarding our sanity concerning situations and people who are toxic. In many instances, the toxicity is at the place of work. There are those who consciously or subconsciously try to break us. Interestingly, those are the first ones who try to evangelize. However, as the word of God says in Galatians 6:7, God is not mocked. Additionally, there are always situations in our families which generally erode our mental wellness. During difficult times, it is completely normal to feel anxious, isolated or overwhelmed. Men and Mental Wellness Mental wellness is tough for everyone. However, for men it takes on an added dimension. As men many of us have been socialized in a gendered manner which calls on us to be tough and void of emotions. For many we shun from sharing our emotions even with those whom we consider to be close to us. Male bonding is usually frowned upon especially in societies which are homophobic in nature. As a result many men suffer in silence. Recently, a friend shared a Tik Tok video on male mental wellness. In the video the question was asked how well do we know our friends. This question was asked against the background of a suicide incident committed by one of four close friends. Unfortunately, the friends had no idea of the struggles their friend had been experiencing. This group of 4 males had been friends from childhood so it was a shock for them when one of the friends died by suicide. Men tend to look at the flawed blueprint regarding the construction of masculinity. Men oftentimes buy into this false notion of masculinity and manhood which presupposes that we must not complain and that all is well with us regardless of the pain around. The toxic masculinity many times prevent men from seeking help whether its for their mental wellness or general well being. Regrettably, a study was done recently which revealed that 53% of men in Jamaica are depressed. According to the study more than half (53 per cent) of men in Jamaica have been experiencing varying levels of depression during the post-COVID-19 period, according to an island wide study conducted by Northern Caribbean University (NCU) in October and November 2022. The levels of depression recorded were 41 per cent mild, eight per cent moderate and four per cent severe, the university said in a release. The study, titled Assessing Depression in Jamaican Males: Post-COVID-19, further revealed that nearly 10 per cent of the 1,066 adult males surveyed attempted to take their own life or had thoughts of doing so or wished they were dead. Another 25 per cent felt their life was not worth living. The survey findings have a plus/minus 3 per cent margin of error. According to the NCU study, depression can be defined as a mood disorder which is associated with feelings of sadness and loss of interest, which negatively affects how one feels, thinks, and behaves. Depression results in a disruption of various aspects of daily living and may present itself in times of stress, crises, or conflicting events; if not treated promptly, it can affect one’s functioning. The World Health Organization has indicated that depression affects approximately 3.8 per cent of the world’s population (280 million people), noting that 75 per cent of people in low-and-middle-income nations go untreated for this mental health disorder. Further analysis of the NCU research findings revealed that the desire to be dead was more pronounced among younger men (eight per cent of the 18-21 years old cohort along with eight per cent of men 22-25 years of age). Nearly six per cent of men aged 26-29 years, and five per cent of those ages 30+ years old expressed the sentiment. These findings reflect the view of the World Health Organization that “the pandemic has affected the mental health of young people and that they are disproportionally at risk of suicidal and self-harming behaviours.” Paul Bourne, interim director of Institutional Research at the Mandeville-based university said the study “has brought a preview of the mental health challenges experienced by Jamaican males, and this speaks to a silent killer that is being nurtured in the minds of these individuals.” Stephen Boss Suicide should not be viewed through racial lens; instead we should view death by suicide as a human issue which affects all races. The death by suicide of Stephen Boss has once again elevated the issue of mental wellness in the black community and specifically regarding men. Many of us know of Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss from his appearances on the Ellen DeGeneres Show where he was a co-host. tWitch” Boss was a man who wore many hats. He was a dancer who rose to fame thanks to Fox’s “So You Think You Can Dance” and earlier this year, became a permanent judge on the show. He was born in Montgomery, Alabama on September 29, 1982. He got his ‘tWitch’ nickname, as a child, from popping and ticking, when he couldn't sit still. In 2000, he graduated from Lee High School in Montgomery, Alabama. He went on to study Dance Performance at Southern Union State Community College in Wadley, Alabama and Chapman University. In 2003, he was a semifinalist on MTV's The Wade Robson Project (2003). He was also a runner-up on the television talent competition, Star Search (2003). He choreographed for South Korean pop/R&B singer, Se7en. In December 2009, he debuted on the comedy collective, TheKommune.com, in several sketch-series videos. He has taught dance classes and held workshops all over the world. In his 40 years Stephen Boss achieved a lot; he brought happiness to so many yet clearly he was struggling with his own issues. Warning Signs of Suicide • Thinking or talking about suicide • Withdrawal from family, friends or activities • Feeling purposeless • Feeling hopeless regarding the future • Anxiety or significant mood changes, such as anger, sadness or helplessness • Talking about being in unbearable pain or being a burden to others In Pursuit Of Safe Spaces Societies need more safe spaces for men to be vulnerable. These safe spaces should be available so men can freely and openly discuss their insecurities as well as celebrate their successes without the fear of condemnation. What is needed is a supportive and caring society. Will we ever arrive at this safe place? Clearly, the answer depends on what each of us as men is willing to do in order to bring about behavioural change in terms of how we treat each other as men as well as how the wider society treats us as men. Many of us as men are afraid that once we share our own insecurities we will be labeled or judged. However, while that may be true in some aspects we should not allow that to prevent us from seeking assistance. Our faith in God is truly put to test in challenging times. We should however remember that in our valley moments, the Psalmist David says in Psalm 34:18. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Undoubtedly, stigma and discrimination often accompanies mental health issues. The society can be a harsh place. Nonetheless there is empathy and compassion and indeed help available for those who struggle in this area of their life. We all are passionate about some activity; personally doing research and blogging works. Perhaps, you enjoy dancing, shelling gungo peas, painting, exercising, listening to music, gardening and sewing, whatever takes your mind away from the stresses of life. It is important that we find that activity which can help to de-stress us. Help Is Available Jamaicans can contact the Ministry of Health's Mental Health and Suicide Prevention helpline at 888-NEW-LIFE (639-5433) for mental health support. For those in Canada, there is Talk Suicide Canada and they can be reached at 1- 833-456-4566 If you are living in the United States of America and you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts or mental health matters, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 to connect with a trained counselor. Additionally, one can speak to their primary health care provider or a trusted family member or friend. There is no health without mental health. Help is available, do not suffer in silence. In the words of Joubert Botha, sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them. Wayne Campbell is an educator and social commentator with an interest in development policies as they affect culture and or gender issues. waykam@yahoo.com @WayneCamo © #MentalHealth #MentalAwareness #Mentalwellbeing #depression #masculinity #manhood #tWitch #SuicidePrevention

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