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Performance, Traditions and the Afterlife

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"Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted."- St. Matthew 5:4. A funeral is a structured ceremony, with a beginning, middle and an end. Many of those who attend funerals are not mourning. A significant number of the so called mourners are there for the food. Of course they will give the customary greeting ‘I am sorry for your loss’. The reality is they are being polite. Very few are truly sorry and will grieve with you. In fact, even some family members put on a performance worthy of an Academy Award. However, such is life. We each grieve in separate ways. There are no manuals which say there is one size fit all regarding grief. Some will bawl while others mourn silently. Oftentimes, we use our biases and prejudices regarding how one should mourn to cast judgment. Each time we attend a funeral we become or should become more conscious of our own mortality. Performance . We are always performing. One just has to examine our use and misuse of social media; ev...

Interrogating the Reading Crisis

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“When a child learns to read, they don’t just decode letters on a page, they begin to dream bigger, think more critically, and imagine a future beyond what they can see.”- Marshall Tuck, CEO of Ed Voice. The fact that a significant number of first formers are reading below their grade level is cause for national concern. However, despite all the talk regarding literacy intervention programmes there is the feeling that there is no national consensus concerning how to adequately address the reading crisis we face as a nation. A related issue on display is an exclusive education system. The reading crisis is multi layered and therefore the solutions must adhere to similar principles. Undoubtedly, our schools must be the primary vehicle for achieving reading readiness for all students. Phonics should be compulsory at the primary level from grades 1- 4. The Primary Exit Profile (PEP) should be only for grade 5 and 6. Many students are ill-equipped by the time they reach high school to dec...

Dumb If You Do! Dumb If You Don't!

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Dumb is problematic. There was a time when intelligence was highly sought after. It appears gone are those days. Relationships are difficult. Those who are in relationships and those who seek to have relationships should always be mindful of being unequally yoked. Some men prefer their women to play dumb or to dumb down. Dumb down occurs when someone pretends to be dumb at the bequest of another person. This is a sign of disrespect. This often happens in relationships where men suggest or frankly tell their significant others to dumb down. Once this enters a relationship it is time to seek help. Such a relationship will become toxic especially for the party who has had to lower his or her intellectual capacity. Toxicity in any relationship is unhealthy and oftentimes lead to signs of anxiety and or depression. It is always better to walk away from such situations than to subject yourself to such humiliation and disregard. The idea of marrying down is not that appealing. Human sexuality...

Evil Unimaginable

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“Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.”- Herbert Ward. The summer has just started, well officially. We have neither autumn nor winter; instead we have summer like conditions all year round. In spite of the normalcy of the hotter nights and sweltering heat of this Caribbean paradise, some of the news emerging in recent times makes you sick to the stomach. There is no denying that we live in a hypersexualized society and indeed world. Sex is everywhere even in cartoons; there is always a sublime sexually suggested message as bait for children. Childhood should be fun and free from the stresses of adult situations. Our children are not being given the chance to be children. Child abuse is rampant; one only has to look at the statistics. Unfortunately, many of our children have had their innocence ripped out from their souls. Sadly, at times, the abuser is a family member who lives under the same roof. In many instances when students display maladaptive behaviour this...

Trauma, Epigenetics and Healing

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“There is no one way to recover and heal from any trauma. Each survivor chooses their own path or stumbles across it.”- Laurie Matthew. Very often, we associate trauma with physical pain. Sadly, many of us walk around daily with mountains of trauma from various manifestations within our lives. Trauma can happen at any age. In fact, trauma can affect us at any time, including a long time after the event had happened. Outside of personal trauma, there are also collective and generational traumas. Generational or intergenerational trauma is a type of trauma that is experienced across generations of a family, culture or group. On the other hand, secondary trauma occurs when you witness trauma or you are closely connected to it. It is sometimes called vicarious trauma. Many of us as Afro Caribbean people are still traumatized when we watch slavery-inspired movies or films, such as ‘Roots’ and “12 Years A Slave". The movie 12 Years a Slave is a 2013 biographical historical drama...

Rover Was Special

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“Dogs come into our lives to teach us about love, they depart to teach us about loss. A new dog never replaces an old dog, it merely expands the heart. If you have loved many dogs your heart is very big.”- Erica Jong. He was lifted one last time. After an agonizing consultation with my mother and brother a decision was arrived at. I knew this day was coming. Rover was no pup; he was ten years old with a growing number of health issues. He was no longer the frisky Rover, had became lethargic. In recent times Rover’s abdomen became extended. Upon examination the vet, ordered her assistant to draw fluid from his abdomen. The drawn fluid had traces of blood. Rover was not going to get better. His condition was one of management that would require him to be on a particular drug until death. I braced myself for Rover’s prognosis. In the last few weeks he had lost his aggressive and adventurous personality. Yes, dogs do have personalities. The panting almost gasping was more frequent. He h...

Reimagine Graduations and Awards

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“A narrow focus of awards can lead to decreased motivation, increased stress and a sense of exclusion among students who don’t fit the traditional mold of what a successful student is supposed to be.”- Linda Iwenofu clinical child psychologist and assistant professor in applied psychology and human development at the Ontario Institute for Studies in Education. Congratulations to the class of 2025. Graduations are special events. What happens after the flash of the cameras go quiet, the balloons burst and the crowd disperses? In many instances, graduations are viewed as rites of passage. Rites of passage are important indicators of transition culminating in adulthood. Graduations are oftentimes grounded in great expectations not only for the grandaunts but also for their parents, guardians and well wishers. Many graduates over the years of formal schooling developed strong connections to both their educational institutions and friends. Formal schooling is much more than academics a...